Wednesday, May 13, 2009
We learn to love by being loved and accepting that love. Knowing we are loved is the most importnat lesson learned in childhood.
If we dread the love relationship, we select someone for whom there are no strong feelings of attachment so that we can cut that person off without feeling a sense of loss. in that way, we can reject the love object first.
If we sought out someone we could really love, it would be more painful to reject and be rejected.
In that way. we can reject the love object first.